Every time people ask me about things I don’t like, there are many things that popped out in my mind. I consider myself as a slightly cynical kind of person. I surely don’t want to… More
Akhir-akhir ini di media sosial sedang ramai membahas bullying. Bullying ini sebenarnya kata yang berasal dari bahasa Inggris. Merujuk pada Kamus Bahasa Indonesia ke Inggris, arti kata bully adalah perundungan. Namun, penggunaan kata perundungan sepertinya tidak populer dalam masyarakat Indonesia, khususnya masyarakat awam.
Dalam Kamus Besar Bahasa Indonesia edisi ke-5, rundung memiliki arti sebagai berikut:
[v], m.run.dung v (1) mengganggu; mengusik terus-menerus; menyusahkan: anak itu ~ ayahnya, meminta dibelikan sepeda baru; (2) menimpa (tt kecelakaan, bencana, kesusahan, dsn): ia tabah atas kemalangan yang telah ~nya.
Perundungan artinya suatu perlakuan yang mengganggu, megusik terus-menerus dan juga menyusahkan. Jadi bully adalah kata serapan atau biasa disebut dengan kata pungutan atau pinjaman yaitu kata-kata yang berasal dari bahasa asing yang telah terintegrasi ke dalam bahasa Indonesia dan telah diterima luas oleh masyarakat umum.
Sepertinya berita soal bullying selalu terus muncul. Pekan lalu ada beberapa berita mengenai bullying yang viral di media sosial. Berita pertama adalah bullying yang dilakukan oleh siswi SMP terhadap siswi kelas VI SD yang berlokasi di Thamrin City. Kejadian tersebut berawal karena adu mulut yang entah akar masalahnya disebabkan oleh apa. Dalam video yang viral, disebutkan dua orang pelaku menganiaya korban hingga jatuh tersungkur ke lantai. Saya menonton videonya terkejut, karena si pelaku menjambak rambut korban dengan cara membabi buta. Apakah dia tidak berpikir jika dia di posisi korban dan merasakan bagaimana sakitnya dijambak sedemikian rupa? Apakah dia tidak berpikir jika pihak sekolah dan orangtua akan tahu mengenai hal ini? Sekarang apa jadinya? Pelaku sudah dikeluarkan dari sekolah. Bukannya meraih prestasi sebanyak mungkin, dia malah membuat orangtuanya malu.
Kemudian berita bullying yang juga viral adalah, segelintir mahasiswa di salah satu universitas di Depok mem-bully temannya yang autis. Saya tidak habis pikir, mengapa masih ada orang yang setega itu mem-bully orang yang berbeda dari dia. Apakah mereka tidak diajarkan bahwa sebagai manusia makhluk hidup ciptaan Tuhan yang paling sempurna wajib memperlakukan manusia secara manusiawi? Jangankan sesama manusia, dalam ajaran agama saja kita diajarkan untuk mengasihi makhluk hidup lainnya. Apakah mereka tidak berpikir bagaimana susahnya, ribetnya, sebesar apa pengorbanan orangtua membesarkan anak-anak berkebutuhan khusus ini? Menyandang status sebagai mahasiswa ternyata tidak cukup mengubah seseorang untuk berperilaku santun.
Hal ini membuat saya bertanya-tanya, kira-kira hal apa sih yang menyebabkan pelaku ini tega memojokkan seseorang yang mereka anggap berbeda dari dia untuk dijadikan bahan candaan? Apakah mereka tidak dinasehati oleh orangtua atau guru-guru mereka untuk berperilaku baik terhadap siapapun? Saya tidak bermaksud untuk menyalahkan orangtua/guru dari pelaku, karena saya yakin bahwa tidak satu pun dari mereka mengajarkan anak/muridnya hal yang tidak baik. Saya rasa pembully belum mengerti tentang autis dan menganggap hal ini adalah suatu hal yang wajar untuk dijadikan bahan candaan.
Kenapa perilaku anak jaman sekarang agak sulit untuk dikontrol? Sewaktu saya masih kecil, saya tidak pernah menemukan kejadian seperti ini, semua aman, tentram dan terkendali. Tidak pernah ada kejadian, contohnya; murid sekolah A beradu mulut/saling mengolok dengan murid sekolah B karena hal yang tidak penting dan berujung perselisihan, justru sebaliknya, hal tersebut dapat memperluas pertemanan. Mungkin pernah saja ada, tapi saya tidak tahu karena mungkin saya adalah tipe anak rumahan atau dulu belum ada gadget dan hanya melihat berita sebatas TV saja.
Semasa kecil, saya dan teman-teman sibuk mengikuti kegiatan positif seperti memainkan permainan tradisional, bergabung dengan klub pecinta kesenian dan olahraga, bersepeda di sore hari, yang pasti melakukan kegiatan outdoor dimana kita bisa bebas berekspresi. Tidak seperti zaman sekarang dengan teknologi yang semakin canggih dan beragam, saya perhatikan banyak orangtua memanjakan anak-anak mereka dengan gadget sehingga membuat mereka asyik dengan dunianya sendiri dan tidak lagi punya waktu untuk bermain di luar.
Saya paham bagaimana rasanya jadi korban bullying karena saya pernah mengalami hal tersebut semasa kuliah. Saya pernah dicap/dilabeli dengan kata yang seolah-olah saya ini punya penyakit psikologis yang tidak tertolong lagi, padahal saya hanya ingin berteman. Saya juga pernah disidang, saya duduk di tengah-tengah dan mereka duduk mengelilingi saya seperti seolah-olah saya ini pelaku kriminal yang telah menyakiti temannya dan saya harus memohon maaf dari mereka. Dari dua kejadian tersebut membuat saya jadi tidak tidak percaya diri, lalu saya malas untuk ngampus dan merasa tidak bebas ‘bergerak’ karena khawatir dilabeli ‘bertingkah’ oleh mereka. Saya sedih terus-terusan dan merasa orang-orang di sekitar saya tidak nyaman/merasa terganggu akan keberadaan saya.
Mereka tidak tahu bagaimana heran dan sedihnya Ibu saya saat itu karena perilaku saya berubah menjadi semenyedihkan itu. Saya tidak bermaksud untuk mengungkit kembali kejadian yang pernah saya alami dan telah berlalu, saya memaafkan mereka, tapi sayangnya memaafkan tidak bisa melupakan apa yang telah terjadi.
JADI, TOLONG, HENTIKAN SEMUA BENTUK BULLYING YANG MEMOJOKKAN ORANG LAIN, BAIK ITU DI DUNIA MAYA MAUPUN DI DUNIA NYATA!!
Karena sama sekali tidak berguna dan mungkin saja suatu hari kalian membutuhkan pertolongan orang yang pernah kalian bully atau tidak menutup kemungkinan kalian akan mengalami hal yang serupa dikemudian hari. Saya percaya bahwa roda kehidupan selalu berputar, tidak selamanya kita ‘di atas’. What you give, you get, so as a human being always be kind and treat people equal. 🙂
Last week, my friends and I decided to spend our weekend together. We have chosen Lotte Shopping Avenue mall as the meeting point. I hate being the last person who come late to any occasion either formal or informal, but I have asked my friends for their permission because it was my first day getting monthly period, and they agreed.
They said they will be at Starbucks while waiting for my decision to join them or not. By the time I arrived, I found Cathy were helping Riu smearing nail polish to her nails, because she’s an expertise of it, while Septi were still looking for me. That day, I brought Cathy a gift because her birthday was in the beginning of the month and this is the only chance to give it to her.
We didn’t expect that there was a Korean festival ongoing. I heard that LO-VE is a mall which has the most of Korean visitor. No wonder Korean people have always carry out the event in this place. I don’t know what they have presented on the event they carried out a few times ago but today they presented Korean traditional dancing, a group of elementary school pupils sang some of Korean songs, a band of some old men, some woman worn Hanbok and they offered us to taste their traditional snack called Hangwa and Korean traditional tea.
Down below are some pictures I have taken by my phone.
Another pictures to be continued.
I’ve just found out that Korean people are not that friendly like if we want to take a selfie with them for instance. This afternoon, I had some chitchat with a Korean kid. When I talked to him–in English of course, while he was playing online game and his friends surrounded him. Then I asked him if I can take a selfie with him and his friends or not? And surprisingly he refused it straight away.
This is interesting, I must learn how their parents or teachers taught them how to not being friendly with strangers you met when you are not around your parents. And another thing that I’m envy is they speak English fluently at the very early age.
Kali ini saya akan menceritakan tentang perjuangan saya tanpa menggunakan Smartphone beberapa tahun yang lalu. Tsaahh!
Sewaktu saya kuliah dulu, smartphone yang paling canggih yang pernah saya punya adalah Blackberry, karena pada masa itulah Blackberry sedang berada di puncak kejayaannya. Saya menggunakan BB mostly hanya untuk BBM-an dan Twitter-an. Saya tidak suka mengakses Facebook dari BB karena layarnya terlalu kecil, apalagi untuk membuka blog. Setelah beberapa kali ganti BB dengan seri terbaru dan ujung-ujungnya selalu rusak/hilang, akhirnya saya menyerah untuk menggunakan BB dan memutuskan untuk menggunakan hp Samsung which is itu adalah hp hadiah dari Tv flat yang saya beli, dan fungsinya hanya untuk sms dan telepon. As simple as it is.
Dulu saya bangga akan diri saya sendiri, kenapa? Karena di jaman teknologi yang lagi gencar-gencarnya melakukan inovasi, saya bisa bertahan tidak menggunakan Smartphone selama kira-kira dua tahun. Saya juga heran, ternyata saya bisa juga melewati tantangan itu. Kira-kira ada gak ya orang yang bisa bertahan selama itu tanpa menggunakan smartphone? Saya sih ragu, tapi mungkin saja ada.
Alasan kenapa saya memutuskan untuk tidak menggunakan smartphone saat itu adalah karena saya bermaksud untuk mengukur sejauh mana ketergantungan saya terhadap barang tersebut. Selain saat itu status saya juga masih mahasiswi, pastinya belum bisa menghasilkan pundi-pundi rupiah untuk membeli gadget canggih. Alasan lainnya adalah bagaimana saya harus bisa melatih diri saya sendiri untuk menurunkan gengsi karena saya tidak punya smartphone sama sekali which is di setiap sudut mana pun yang saya amati semua orang sibuk dengan gadgetnya masing-masing, dan itu…. lumayan berat. Dulu saya pikir untuk stay in touch dengan keluarga, pacar dan temen-temen tidak harus punya smartphone, untungnya dulu masih ada talk mania (TM) dan kebetulan temen-temen dan keluarga saya di Makassar kebanyakan pengguna Tlkmsl, Lagi pula saya juga sudah dewasa dan menyadari kalau saya sudah terlalu banyak menyusahkan orangtua.
Contohnya waktu masih SMA, saya adalah pengguna setia N*kia, setiap ada keluaran seri terbaru, saya selalu merengek kayak anak kecil meminta untuk dibelikan dan hebatnya lagi beberapa hari kemudian apa yang saya inginkan terkabulkan. Setelah saya pikir-pikir lagi betapa egoisnya saya dulu, tidak memikirkan bagaimana susahnya Papah saya kerja banting tulang untuk memenuhi keinginan anak-anaknya. Saya mengambil hikmah dari masa-masa ini, I mean, setiap apa yang saya minta ke orangtua dan langsung dikabulkan membuat saya tersadar bahwa saya tidak boleh terus-terusan seperti itu. Saya juga berpikir jika suatu saat nanti saya memiliki anak, saya harus lebih bijak dari ortungtua saya dalam mendidik anak-anak saya kelak, harus lebih hati-hati lagi dalam mengenalkan mereka dengan teknologi.
Saya merasa selama saya tidak bergantung dengan smartphone, keseharian saya jadi jauh lebih bermakna, misalnya; saya jadi lebih banyak membaca buku dan artikel berita/blog-blog yang isinya bermanfaat (ini bacanya pake notebook ya), saya jadi lebih sering mampir ke toko buku ntah itu untuk mengecek buku apa yang lagi best seller atau menambah koleksi buku di rumah, intensitas berinteraksi dengan keluarga di rumah jadi lebih meningkat, kalau ‘nongkrong’ dengan temen-temen, saya lebih sering memerhatikan mimik wajah dan gerak tubuh mereka ketika mereka menceritakan/mengungkapkan sesuatu, yaah walaupun masih ada juga sih beberapa temen lain yang sibuk dengan smartphonenya, dan biasanya anak-anak yang ngobrol face-to-face ini hpnya tidak canggih. Hahaha.. Dan terakhir saya jadi lebih peka dengan keadaan sekitar, misalnya kalo ada orang tiba-tiba kepleset jadi bisa gue tolong. Gitu.
Beberapa tahun terakhir, saya memutuskan untuk membeli smartphone. Awalnya saya tidak terdistraksi, mungkin karena terbiasa tanpa smartphone. Tapi lama-lama akhirnya tangan saya ‘gatal’ untuk mengutak-atik sosial media yang lagi ngetrend jaman sekarang ini. Platform sosial media yang menghubungkan dengan netizen dari berbagai belahan dunia pun semakin beragam. Mulai dari Facebook, Twitter, lalu muncul Instagram, Path, beberapa messenger keluaran terbaru setelah BBM seperti Line dengan sticker lucunya, Whatsapp dan aplikasi lainnya yang tidak saya hapal namanya. Untuk saya pribadi, saya sangat memaksimalkan komunikasi dengan menggunakan Whatsapp dan email, kalaupun untuk komunikasi dengan pemilik online shop, saya menggunakan Line supaya obrolan saya dengan orang-orang terdekat/teman-teman tidak tercampur. Saya punya akun beberapa sosial media yang lagi ngetrend, mungkin memang dasarnya saya lebih suka jadi pemerhati ketimbang jadi pelaku, sehingga sosmed yang saya punya tidak update alias I totally have no idea apa yang mau saya posting, toh saya juga bukan siapa-siapa yang orang-orang musti apresiasi dengan apa yang saya share di sosmed. Yang jelas saya menggunakan smartphone semata-mata untuk berkomunikasi dengan orang-orang terdekat yang tinggal beda kota dengan saya, update berita setiap hari dan tentunya sebagai tempat untuk belajar akan hal-hal yang tidak saya dapatkan di luar dunia maya.
Prinsip saya, sah-sah saja punya smartphone asal jangan sampai membuat kita kecanduan, karena banyak hal lain yang bisa kita lakukan/temukan tanpa smartphone. Smartphone memang membuat kita terdistraksi dari hal nyata di sekitar kita, hal itu tergantung kitanya saja bagaimana untuk lebih bijak lagi agar smartphone yang kita miliki tidak membuat kita mudah terbawa arus dengan hal-hal yang tidak berfaedah.
Saturday night in Yogyakarta for xx times–I barely remember exactly how many times I’ve spent my Saturday night in Yogya, but I guess it’s 3-4 times.
As I’ve been written on my previous post slightly about Yogyakarta–or you can simply click this link, I met a friend. Meike, that’s the way she used to be called. I have no idea, but, I’d like to have a long conversation with this girl all night long. I’ve learned many things from her point of view.
First meeting point was in Benteng Vredeburg which located next to Malioboro street. My brother took me to the place by motorcycle. The sun was shinning bright that day, or it’s just typical Yogya’s weather. We arrived around 1 PM. While waiting for Meike, we took some pictures of ourselves–oh I miss to spend my time with this no-longer little dude so much. Apparently there is a vintage cafe inside the museum. The cafe itself names Indishe Cafe. I have always excited when it comes to vintage because it’s authentic, artistic and classy. Let me show you a few snapshot I’ve taken by phone.
By the time I entered the cafe, I fall in love straight of the ambience the owner has created, the vintage furnitures that the owner put on the right place make every corner look completely like the time before the independence day, I guess. I chose the table next to a big window, near to some frames with old picture that stick to the wall.
I’ve ordered Java fried rice and lemon tea and Meike has ordered the same as mine. Meike and I started exploring the cafe while for the menus and go back to our table when the food is served. We talk about when she was in Berlin during eating our lunch. I was excited to hear about her story. She went to Berlin for academic stuff. She managed to met a lot of people and experienced a few things. Honestly, I envy her. She met some random p*nk dudes when she waiting for the train with her friend, she said they were shouting at them out loud but they didn’t understand what they have shouted about. They were frightened. However she is lucky, isn’t she? I mean, she went to Germany, a country that I’ve always dreamt of and all I hope is her dreams will be come true.
Actually, we didn’t have any plan where we will be headed after we finished our meals. Meike suggested to go to a famous knitted bag shop names Dowa which located near to the famous Tugu. But before that, we stop by to the famous shopping centre names Mirota Batik.
Mirota Batik has become the most visited place by tourists, either domestic visitors or even locals to find Javanese typical souvenirs for their family and friends. The shopping centre sells many things with affordable price, for instance; clothes–from casual to formal, accessories (unisex), statues, traditional games, bags with various material, footwears, aroma therapy, paintings, cutleries, stationaries, and so on. I have found some postcards for myself as usual, but unfortunately I’m not going to send any of these to whom who ask for it because because these ones are hard to find–pics to be continued.
After Mirota Batik, we headed to Honje restaurant which have the same location with Dowa shopping bag. Meike offers me two options to reach the place, either by walking through the street or using local transportation such as Becak or Delman. But I’d like walking because I wanted to enjoy the atmosphere along Malioboro street while having some chit-chat.
We finally managed arrived at Dowa safe and sound by walking for approximately for 45 minutes. We were just checking the stuff around and buy nothing. Then we continued to go upstairs for Honje restaurant. This cafe has modern style, not so many furniture but the colorful tiles have completely attracted me. We have chosen the table next to a big window, so the wind blow up inside through it. There were few things happened at the moment. I saw a group of girls were taking pictures with some different angles, a couple took some wefies, then about a few minutes later, there were a few old whites came and sat on the reserved table–I guess it was semi-formal occasion, and I saw two locals following them. A few minutes before raindrops, a familiar famous female blogger came with her colleague, I guess, and they sat right next to us. I whispered to Meike that the familiar lady is Trinity. Meike barely recognized her and apparently she was a bit surprised when she saw Trinity with her new-modern-like most of Jakartans female style. Indeed, she looks different, a bit more stylish than before when I met her back in 2010, but we didn’t take picture with her because I already had one.
After the rain stop, we continued our cafe-tour in Prawirotaman street. We reached the place by using a non-fare cab and took around 15 minutes. Meike considers that this place is similar to Legian street in Bali because there are some stores and homestays spread in two sides of the road. Unfortunately, I didn’t take pictures while we were there, but I will put some pictures I’ve gotten from the internet so you could visualize how it looks like.
We were walking along the road, stopping by from a store to another–but we found nothing, hehehe, typicall girls who get enough only by window shopping. I’ve found some stores that sell things with affordable price than stores in Bali. The next stop is a western cafe names Aglioo. The cafe using dim lights, so it was impossible to take some snapshots of the place.
This is how Aglioo cafe looks like.
Meike wants to show me some famous places which were filmed by AADC2 the movie crew–I haven’t watched it anyway, but it was impossible due to the number of people visiting that small cafe, so we passed it and continued to Greenhost. It’s a hotel which its hall were managed by AADC2 the movie crew as a painting exhibition hall where Rangga and Cinta meet again for the first time after ten years. So, Meike and I only took some wefie as the farewell while I was waiting for my brother to pick me up and go back to the lodging.
That was my Saturday night story when I was in Yogyakarta. It was endearly fun. I hope someday, I will coming back to this memorable city again and bring different memories.
Today’s post will telling you (in case there is anyone read this blog) about my experience when I stayed at Bunk Bed Hotel for a couple of days when I was in Yogyakarta.
So, after I bought one way train ticket to Yogyakarta, I asked my friend, Ade, straight through Whatsapp about the name of the hotel she stayed in when she was there. I was browsing it a bit to get the information about the lodging. Then after I read all of the information, I made a phone call to the hotel to make a reservation.
The reason why I’ve chose for myself to stay with female stranger at the same room? Because I have always curious to try such new thing, beside the price is affordable–its only IDR 95k for one night include breakfast, FYI.
- 1 living room, include: 1 tv, 1 fan, 2 benches and 1 coffee table
- 1 reading area placed right beside the receptionist
- 1 outside bathroom
- 2 outside toilets
- 4 bedrooms (for female and male). Each room has 4 bunk beds with reading lamp, 1 locker for each guest, 1 bathroom—but do not expect they provide hot water, and an AC. If the room are full of guests, then you will stay with 7 different people that come from different country. Isn’t it sounds cool?
- 1 long table and 1 bench right beside the living room. They will put the fruits, breads and some butters for breakfast
- 1 empty room with no door next to the kitchen for people who want to have some chit-chat on the phone
- 1 kitchen—the concept of this hotel is self-service, so you can have extra coffee, tea and water in here for free
- 1 toaster
- 1 small refrigerator and,
- free wifi access.
I arrived at hotel around 8 PM that night to chcek-in and put my travel bag. The receptionist gave me three keys; 1 front door key, in case I return back to the lodging late; 1 bedroom door, in case the other guest already locked the door before I com; 1 locker key to put all my belongings. When I was in the room, a girl approached me and says, “waw, its beautiful..”. I was guessing that she gave me compliment about my appearance, hehe, but then I turned my head to her and realized that the beautiful thing she meant was the flower printed cardigan I worn that night. But I thanked her anyway, just trying to be nice with foreign people.
After buying a train ticket back to Jakarta, my brother and I didn’t go back straight to the lodging, but we went to Malioboro street to find Wedang Ronde that I was craving for. Wedang Ronde–Ronde abbriviated of ’round’, is a traditional beverage of Java native herbs. Wedang in Javanese means drink, while Ronde is a special batter consisting of a mixture of rice flour and brown sugar shaped dots and the inside contains crushed peanuts. To form Wedang Ronde, dipped in ronde doughs with warm water that made from ginger.
After that, my brother brought me back to the lodging, it took only approximately 15 minutes from Malioboro street. By the time I arrived at the lodging, I was sitting at the living room for awhile to check my phone and informed my Mum. The receptionist has already left and all guests were sleeping.
On the first day, I’ve got upside-bed and I made a noise by accident when I climbed the stairs of the bed. But I thanked God that nobody disturbed by the noise I’ve made. I couldn’t sleep straight at the moment, then I continued checking my social media until I manage to fall asleep. I think it was around 3 AM, a girl woke up to go to the toilet, then another girl woke up at the same time, they made some noices by accident and awaken the other girl. She was disturbed by the noise. She said, “Hey! Its still 3 AM in the morning, bla blaa bla!!!”. I was about to laugh but I couldn’t open my eyes. I mean, this is an example if we stay in a bunk bed hotel.
The next day, I woke up early in the morning. Then after washing my face and brushing my teeth, I went to have breakfast straight while reading news to keep in touch with current affairs. I made a cup of warm tea, I had breads too and two slices of watermelon. I saw a few guests in m bedroom was already checked out, and only two girls left, a white girl from Poland and I. I asked the receptionist to swap my bed to the bottom side.
After I took a shower, I lied down myself while waiting for my brother to pick me up, then the Poland girl greets me and asks my name. We had some chit-chat, introducing ourselves, sharing our destination why we came to Yogya and the plan after Yogya, etc. Her next destination was Bali. I was promoting some beaches from my hometown, but he’s just nodding. I think she has no idea about my hometown. Haha!
That’s the story about my experience when I stayed at the bunk bed hotel for couple of days. There are some pictures below that I tool from the internet of how the Bunk Bed and Breakfast hotel in Yogyakarta looks like from the outside. But, don’t expect too high. 😀
Last month, Mum has informed me that she and my Dad could not attend my brother’s graduation day in Yogyakarta because they cannot leave my grandma whom need a lot of attention, she asks me to go. I agreed. It has been a long time since the last time I visited Yogyakarta in 2009. The graduation day carried out on 25th August 2016. I have bought the train ticket two weeks earlier before departure, because the price is cheaper than we buy it on the spot. Unfortunately the economy class were sold out so I bought Taksaka Malam for IDR 290k, an executive class. Purchasing ticket way too simple recently. When you need a ticket to go somewhere, you can order it online or contacting the travel agent by the phone. I made a call to PT KAI (Kereta Api Indonesia) to order one way ticket. To order ticket, the customer service need our personal identity as the requirement to process the ticket. After that, they will give you the booking code and limited time to pay. Just simple as it is.
I’d prefer to use train than plane because I don’t like flying. Hahaha..
On the day I arrived–it was around 4.20 am, my brother picked me up at Tugu station. I did not take some pictures of it because we were in a hurry and he needed to get ready and preparing stuff before the graduation ceremony begin. He dropped me off at my friend’s home, Kiki. Kiki is one of my best friend since we were in high school. She is married to a Javanese guy and has a three weeks old son names Russel. She named his son as it based on a little lad names Russel in UP the movie. She wish that her son will be like Russel in the future.
Hasna–my brother’s girlfriend picked me up at 7 am sharp. It was not only my brother who will graduated on that day, but also my cousin who finished his study for D4–the same accomplishment as bachelor degrees, and his parents were coming too. The opening ceremony began at 8.30 am sharp. It took two hours and more for ceremonial of the cadets, the opening speech, the pledge of the cadets and speech of the Minister of Agrarian that made us all almost fell asleep. My brother got surprised when he saw Hasna were coming too. After we took some pictures, we went to get some food for lunch.
On the second day which I have to check-in at the hotel I have booked, my brother couldn’t pick me up due to there was an event he had to handle, so I have spent the whole day at Kiki’s home. Kiki and I were talked about many things and reminiscing about the moment we have spent together when we were in high school–while she carries her baby to feed him all the time of course. There are a lot of things you have to do when you become a Mother such as feeding the baby, change the baby’s diaper, to bathe the baby and another baby stuff that makes you got lack of sleep at night which makes you looks like a zombie in the following day. I’m amazed that she is a mother now.
My brother managed to pick me up in the evening, and I had to farewell Kiki and her family. My brother brought me to attend a semi formal farewell dinner which managed by the cadets themselves. The even itself was intended to receive their families that came from their hometwon. My brother took a part as the leader of this event and he nailed it. After that, he accompaied me to looking for the train ticket at the station, so I could strolling over the city without any worries on the next day.
Before I came to Yogyakarta, I have already made an appointment with a friend. Both of us went to the same university but we separated in different batch. She’s living in Yogya to pursue her master degree in UGM (Gajah Mada University). I’ve spent a day with Meike and visited four different cafes. We had several things to discuss. She’s is an open minded person, a feminist, so I am very pleasant to share anything with her. The story of Saturday night in Yogya is to be continued.
I woke up early in the morning around 6, there room were dark, people were still sleeping. It’s my last day in Yogya and I will going back to Jakarta, back to my routine. The train will be arrived at 8.22 pm at Lempuyangan station from Surabaya. I’ve asked the receptionist for late check out and she grant my demand unless there is no new guest that day. This is what I like about Yogya, people are humble, everything is easy and cheap. So I stayed a bit longer and took the chance to recover my energy.
It was raining that day and I was starving. My brother picked me up late for lunch. That time we decided to have lunch at the famous Super Sambal because they serve menus with affordable price. After that, we strolling over the city. The weather was good, slightly cloudy. After Magrib, we reurned to the hostel to take all my belongings then go straight to the station. My brother accompanied me until the train came at 8.10 pm which was 10 minutes earlier. Farewell Yogya. Here I come, Jakarta.
Last night when I was about to sleep, I received a message from a colleague–a marry guy with one kid, FYI. He asks about have I started to work or not yet? Less than a minute another new message popped up on my mobile screen. It was him again. He asks, did I bring some local snacks from my hometown or not? Because he meant to stop by at my flat to get it. I said, I didn’t have any chances to buy it. Two minutes later, another message popped up, and it was him again. He offers me to go somewhere around Jakarta with him and he wants to know where I stay.
I am pissed off. I didn’t expect that he asked me such thing. It is not an appropriate thing for a married guy. I get offended, I can hardly bear it and my temper was about to explode, I tried to calm myself down. I told him that the place where I stay is not allowing male guest to come. I hope it is a right way to give him a warning. I know, although I cannot judge him wheteher he is trying to be nice to people or not, but still, it is not an appropriate thing of a married guy to a single woman.
For me, it will never be an easy thing when it comes to faitfulness in a marriage. Life after marriage is way more complicated than I have imagined–it might be sound too much because I haven’t experienced it yet, there are a few habits that we used to do but we have to change it before we are getting married, I assumes. For example is, making a good relationship to everyone. All of married couple are possible to make friends with whoever they want, either females or males–because it is human rights to socialize. But in this case it’s totally different. I mean the connection between wife and husband is a fragile thing. We have to sorting out which people we enjoy being friend with and people who will/want to understand our life.
These past months I’ve got a few kind of this thing. I got bothered by a few married men at my office. It makes me uncomfortable. I know they are well educated, but do they realize that they cannot treat women like that?
So, the last movie I have watched at the cinema was The Conjuring 2. There were less than twenty people watch this movie, maybe I came to the cinema during weekdays which most of people were prefer return back straight to their home or they just don’t fancy horror movie. I was a bit curious about this movie before a friend asks me to join him. It is not about how the ghosts will be look like, but because I am interested on how the story has happened back then–the movie based on true story.
I am trying not to believe that the movie is based on true story, but I have always failed. I looks like a real one, amazing!
Last week, Indonesia has two public holidays. It was on Thursday and Friday. So, that was a long weekend for us. A week before, I have tried to browse hostelry in Yogyakarta on the internet. A friend–whom I should have met in Yogyakarta few months ago informs me an affordable price of lodging. Then I started browsing the official website afterwards–in case there is any cancellation booked. While I am waiting for their information, I was looking for the train tickets. And once again, the tickets are sold out. 😦
I’m sad and wondering where should I spend my precious long weekend that rarely happens each year. On the same day, a colleague approaches to my desk, we had a little chit-chat and she asks me about my plan for long weekend. I told her about the hotel and train tickets, then she suggests me to go to a book fair that started on 30th April and will be ended on 8th May. The book fair will be opened for 24 hours. This information were amusing me. Many thanks to Mbak Devy.
On Saturday, I decided to go to The Big Bad Wolf book fair in ICE Serpong, South Tangerang. It is the great book sale in the world with 75%-80% discount! So tempting! When I was there, the building was full of books fetish, they look very excited. I also saw many foreigners came to grab the books, because who will waste this event? Mostly the books are written in English with price start from IDR 20k which impossible to find it in bookstore with such price.
That day, I went to ICE by train and online Ojek. I am surprised that the building were nearly full of people. In Jakarta, you will see a big numbers of book hunters than other cities. I have noticed that people were excited to pick the books they want to buy.
Its been awhile, I have passed March and April with nothing left in here. I don’t have anything to post whilst I have spent my days by watching movies I have not watched, try to finish a book I am reading, experiences a few things in leisure. Now here I am, struggling to continue write something about what happens in my life lately.
In the end of April, Europe on Screen (EOS) started showcase the best selection of European films. This festival was held from 29 April – 8 May 2016 at 12 locations in six Indonesia major cities–Jakarta, Bandung, Bali, Medan, Surabaya and Yogyakarta.
I have attended the first day at Erasmus Huis Auditorium in Netherlands embassy. That was my first time joined the festival with a friend and another movie enthusiast in Jakarta. Some of them came alone, some with their sister/borther, some with friends and some with their spouse. When I was in Makassar, I usually attended the festival mostly with my some friends who also has the same enthusiastic of film as I am. Apparently, they did not hold the festival in Makassar this year.
I have also checked some of the synopsis and watch the trailers to get some illustration of the genre. I have list of films in my mind which ones I really want to see, but when I check the schedule, there are some films that will be played during weekdays which I couldn’t possibly attend. The first film I watch was “Two Days, One Night”. A film from Belgium directed by Jean-Pierre Dardenne and Luc Dardenne. On the same day, I watch three films in a row. The second film was “Human Capitol”, then the last was “Long Live Freedom”. The next day, I did not come back due tue several things should be done on time.
The last film I watch was “A Royal Night Out”. A drama comedy film from UK. The film tells about London society celebrate the official end of World War II in Europe where the future Queen of England, Elizabeth, and her sister, Margaret were 19 and 14 years old. They both are are allowed out (but incognito) to join the celebration. The film was pretty much entertaining to me, I could not stop laughing during the film due to the characterestic of Margaret.